Purity Rings

In the entertainment world there is news about Joe Jonas being seen without a purity ring he tends to always wear. He and his brothers were raised in a Christian environment, and their father used to be a pastor. The Jonas brothers were known for wearing their rings at all times because they vowed to wait for marriage for sex.  To me this is really great that they were in the public eye and able to stand up for purity in a very hard environment (the pressures of fame).  One brother is married and therefore doesn't wear his ring anymore, but Joe, who dated many girls, has been seen with Twilight Saga's Ashley Greene. Since their relationship began the ring is noted to be missing from his hand.

Isn't it interesting how so many people will look out for when people fail at something they really believe in and is probably a huge struggle for them? I remember when I wore my purity ring that my mother bought me for my 16th birthday. I loved that ring and it meant so much to me. People would comment about how nice it was. When I started dating later in that same year, I just recall tons of people coming up to me to make sure I was still wearing the ring. I suppose with someone who asked about the ring, gossip went around and I became a joke. They called me "Virgin Vicki" or "Vicki the Virgin".  I became so proud that I would push it around in people's faces as if I was better than them.

If you have or want to have a purity ring, just make sure that you do not gloat about it. You aren't better than anyone. Yes, it is a symbol of a vow you make to your future mate, yourself, and especially to God. People will take note about it. Keep in mind that when you do talk about being pure, people are either going to appreciate what you are doing, or make bets to see how long it will take before you stop wearing your ring. I had people who did both when I wore my ring.

Sadly my ring got all bent out of shape (it was just a blue topaz ring that I wore every day for a bit over two years, so it is expected anyway) and started to hurt my finger. In a way I believe it was significant (the damage done to it) because I was being sexual with my boyfriend (now husband). When after a year and a half of fighting the temptations during the beginning of our relationship, once we gave into temptation, I wore my ring upside down (the stones by the inside palm rather than sticking up as normal). People noticed. Because the ring got so bent up I eventually stopped wearing it (as well as being upset with myself for being deceptive). People left me alone and didn't push it in my face that I failed. That surprised me. Problem is I didn't need them to point it out anyway. I felt like a failure. I let everyone down. Your choices sadly will hurt many people. I even lost a friendship during that time because I let them down with my decision.

In regards to Joe Jonas, if he did lose his virginity, I pray that he is fighting for purity still and not easily giving into the temptations of lust.  I pray that he will be more concerned about doing right for the Lord, rather than giving into his fleshly desires. It is very hard for someone to be pure in our world today. It is such a blessing to hear so many positive stories from my friends and people who have talked to me that mention how they were virgins in marriage. That is something to be very proud of. They obeyed Christ. They fought the pressures around them. That's awesome. If you are single and have given into any sexual pleasures at all, just know that there is still hope for you. There is always a way out of temptation! You can pursue God and purity through your relationship with Him so that you won't falter again in the future.

"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man.  And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.  But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." -1 Corinthians 10:13


If you are interested in getting a purity ring, or to learn more information about them. You can purchase one here, here, and here.

What do you think about purity rings? Do you yourself wear one? What do you tell people when they ask about it? What is their reaction?