What do you do when the costume your daughter wants (or maybe you are the daughter and are hoping to wear a certain costume, but don't know where or how to start for a more modest approach) looks more like something that a woman would wear for a burlesque show or for a Playboy photoshoot?
Here are some suggestions for you.
-If you know someone who sews, or you know how to sew, look into adding pieces to the costume, or wearing layers. Maybe make a more modest version of it.
-Look for similar items at a thrift store that cover up a bit to pull off a beautiful costume that is more modest and not overused that all their friends will be wearing from a costume store.
-If you are a mom, don't give an "okay" for your daughter to wear something because she is young enough in innocence to not really understand the dangers of her costume and how it can lead others to lust after her (keep in mind once again that the average age for prostitutes in the U.S. is 13).
-You are the one who gets the final say. if they scream or make excuses about it (or get dramatic on you), use tough love and let them know how much you care about them and have their best interests in mind. It won't be easy at all, but it will be worth while. Maybe they won't understand it now and will complain to their friends about it, but as they grow and learn about life, they might turn out to appreciate you highly (I did this with my mom...fought and fought and complained but now am grateful). They are to obey you, and it is more important to be a mom in matters like this, rather than being a friend on their good side. Don't let them get their own way.
-Encourage them to be more creative instead of being sexy fairytale characters that seem to be a big deal this time of year (or that you see in the stores). Things they can create non-sexy costume versions of would be examples like a female Indiana Jones (or characters from other movies that are guy roles, if that's cool with you), The Orbit Gum Girl, A fairy princess (with a knee-length or longer skirt), a Chef, A 40s/50s waitress, a gnome, Samara/Sadako from The Ring, A Safari Explorer, An angel, A sailor, Snoopy (or girl Peanuts characters), Bella from Twilight (afteall, she does wait until marriage for sex!), non-sexy fairytale characters, A granny, Joan of Arc, Martha Stewart, and the list could really go on and on
Feel free to list your own creative ideas, so readers can have more inspiration!!!
[Non-sexy Snow White photos by Ida sofie]